The busy culture destroys us.

The idea that working endless hours running multiple businesses is the only way to achieve success has proven to be both toxic and harmful. And yet our society continues to glorify the constant grind, driving more and more gifted creatives and entrepreneurs to inevitable burnout.

I want this to stop. I’ve let it stop in my own life, and now I’m on a mission to banish toxic hustle and bustle from the lives of others.

In fact I have The Royal Shaman after finding success as a doctor and as a top seller. At the time, I was spitting my heart out (and making millions), but constantly exhausted and utterly miserable. When I finally realized that the busy lifestyle was out of balance and lacking substance, I knew I had to switch gears. Now I’m teaching entrepreneurs that it’s possible to make millions while letting go of the busy mentality. That it is possible to stop living a life of “or” and live a life of and/and: Purpose and prosperity, impact and income, meaning and good luck.

Do you want to know how? Here are my tips for breaking away from the toxic crowds culture and finding true freedom.

Embrace a day of nothing

This may sound drastic, but if you’re stuck in “go, go, go” mode, you may need a major pattern break. Our body’s systems are not designed to be productive non-stop, as we are cyclical beings; taking time to rest is just as important as taking time to play is just as important as taking time to work. Staying in working mode all the time will eventually short circuit.

Your pattern break doesn’t have to last all day if you can’t fix it; a few hours before or after the kids wake up is fine. On the other hand, it may take several days if you feel you need a longer and more drastic reset. The greatest amount of time you can free up is a great place to start. The intent is to bring your “doing” to the bare minimum for survival so that you can really relax and hopefully get to a place of boredom. (Boredom is GOOD! It’s a sign of sincere release!)

Here are some additional tips to help make your rest-and-reset time a success:

No electronics; no, nada, nothing!

Put your phone on silent mode after letting your loved ones know you’re busy, and save the Netflix binge for another day.

Have clean, nutritious food on hand that doesn’t require a lot of preparation.

Now is not the time to spend hours creating a three-course meal from scratch, but you do want to have food on hand that makes you feel good. Think nuts, berries, whole grains. Step away from the Twinkies!

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Create an environment for relaxation.

This may mean diffusing aromatherapy oils or lighting a candle, listening to frequency music or binaural beats, or wearing comfortable clothes that feel good on your body.

Don’t feel like lying still for 24 hours and staring at the ceiling!

Low stimulation activity is fine. This is your chance to keep a journal, an adult coloring book, or just move your body in a way that feels right.

Focus on the 20% that delivers 80% of the results

You’ve probably noticed that your “to do” list can stretch to infinity because there are countless things you CAN do. Rather than pressure yourself with everything you think you need to do, prioritize no more than three to five tasks a day and let the rest go. Make sure they are activities that REALLY bring the needle forward; the ones that are rewarding and important.

If this is too challenging, you can start by brainstorming all the things you think you need to do and then, one by one, remove or delegate the tasks that aren’t absolutely essential. Keep doing this until you’ve narrowed your list down to core activities that really matter. Now you’ve made extra time in your schedule to just BE!

Make time and space for activities that cheer you up

Our society has done a great job of making us believe that if we’re not productive, we’re not valuable. This misconception may have convinced you to give up activities that really brought you joy because they didn’t get you closer to a “goal.” And that just breaks my heart.

We are here to experience what it means to be human, not JUST to produce as robots. As a kid, you don’t play Monopoly just to open a bank one day. New! You play for the simple pleasure of the experience. And the more you give yourself time to play—to embrace activities where your only intention is joy—the more energy you’ll have for other priorities in your life. Take a walk, sing karaoke in your living room, take a long bath in the middle of the day. Experiment until you know which activities energize and energize you. Then make time for that.

Allow yourself to request and receive support

This one can be difficult because most of us have been conditioned to believe that “needing help” is a sign of weakness. Another toxic falsehood: We’re meant to work together! The way we currently operate in social isolation – where neighbors don’t even know each other’s names and colleagues don’t know about each other’s personal lives – is inconsistent with our innate nature.

If you struggle with this, start asking for help with small things; maybe ask a coworker for advice, or ask someone to hold a door open for you. (Hey, when I say “little”, I mean it.) Remember that people really LOVE helping out in low pressure situations where they have the option to say “No.” So try to make it a habit to ask well before things reach “emergency” status.

Find gratitude in the NOW

Two schools of thought keep us in a toxic-hustle mode: We either run from the fear of repeating something we’ve experienced in the past, or chase a future we imagine for ourselves. Both mentalities create ongoing feelings of suffering because we are not really in our past or our future… so we find ourselves unable to REALLY be present in the present moment.

If you can’t break this pattern, I can guarantee you will never find lasting satisfaction. You may even look back with regret because you never really appreciated the moments that made life worth living.

To avoid that bleak fate, start by taking just five minutes each morning to write down or say out loud three to five things that make you grateful. State why you are grateful to them and how they make you feel. It can help to put your hand on your heart to really tap into that sense of gratitude that will skip the rest of your day. It won’t be long before you notice how this simple change in energy reduces the feeling of “rushing” and brings you back to this present moment.

I even turned this exercise into a game with my nine-year-old son: On our drive to school, we take turns sharing what we’re thankful for and why. If one of us can’t come up with something to share in ten seconds, we’re out and the other wins!

I am certainly not saying that doing, working and performing are bad – they are all necessary! It’s just that most people struggle to find balance in a society built on and supported by hustling. Modern society has no chill. And it’s in the cold – the moments in life where nothing happens, where you don’t plan or strategize but just are – where your true essence can unfold.

In that energy – that space of letting go of schedule and busyness – your authentic self can finally bring freedom, depth and meaning into life. In that quiet, serene moment of anti-hustle, you can begin to heal.

This guest post was written by Makhosi Nejeser

Makhosi Nejeser, The Royal Shaman, is a authentic African shaman, specialized in personal development and energetic attunement. She is an expert on human potential and spiritual ascension master. Makhosi helps create powerful transformations that increase success, and she teaches individuals how to achieve boundless abundance through synarchy of energetic alignment.

Through her groundbreaking modality, The Energetics of Euphoria, Makhosi teaches her clients and guides to ground themselves in the sense of bliss, evoking the state of Euphoria on a whim, regardless of external circumstances.

Makhosi, a fully initiated Sanusi (Zulu Shaman), and educated in ancient Egyptian spirituality through the Dogon Mystery School, now works as a spirit guide and authentic shaman to help serious seekers fulfill their highest potential, mindfulness and metaphysics mastery through her groundbreaking modality, The Energetics of Euphoria, Makhosi works privately with highly successful individuals to create a powerful path to a sacred and soul fulfilling life. She has been featured in Refinery29, Entrepreneur, POPSUGAR, Business Insider, Authority, Nicki Swift, Thrive Global and on KTLA 5. Learn more at: